Do You Feel Guilty to Be Happy...or even Too Happy?

Break The Cycle of "No" to Your Happiness...
At my "Live Your Happiness Now" Workshop this past Sunday [4/26/15],
an attendee shared this powerful Negative message or Imprint that was instilled in her from childhood..
that for Her to be Happy or even Too Happy
was Not a good thing
that you should Do things for Others
Not for Yourself
so she found it very difficult to do things for Herself that
made Her Happy
bc she Felt
Guilty

Does this sound familiar?
Being of Japanese descent,
I know that this is how many Asian cultures raise their children.
Do for others... Do for others... Do for Others
And YOU come
LAST

Let's flip this around shall we?
That may have been great for them...
for whatever reason that message got them thru their days.
But, really...does This Message make You Happy?
I say...Hellllll, NO! [Can you hear me? I Know you can ( : ]
Really.

Here's the reason:
If YOU ARE HAPPY
then you can easily spread True Happiness to Others
and
Being Happy
You Are a Good Role Model
for Your Children,
Your Parents,
Your Siblings,
Your Relatives,
Your Friends,
You co-workers,
Strangers you meet
That They Can Be Happy Now Daily
with No Guilt

And Their Happiness
Will Spread to Others
Like Dandelion Seeds
Blown by the Wind
To All Corners of the World
Landing Growing & Spreading
Happiness to Happiness to Happiness
Wow!

The Dalai Lama said: "The Purpose of Our Lives IS to Be Happy".
Powerful stuff!

No Putting off Your Happiness for the Future...
when you retire, when your kids graduate college or get married or have kids or get their own house, or when you get your own house, or when you get your dream job, or go on your dream vacation, or or or...
Sound familiar?

Start NOW
and
Break the Cycle
of this Negative Old Message
that No longer works Today
for YOU

Peace out my fellow "Happiness Seekers"...peace out. ( :

Stacy Cheng Suzuki

Life Coach & Reiki Energy Practitioner

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My website: http://www.stacychengsuzuki.com/

Snarky Comments = Compliments...Really

Whenever someone makes a "snarky" comment about You,
Take this as a HUGEEEEE Compliment...
They Want Something that You Have
that They Believe They Are "Lacking".
So take that as a Great Sign
of Your Own Abundance
That People Can See
In YOU and
Want.

Snarky = Jealousy

Does NOT mean you "are lacking"
The EXACT Opposite actually
= That You ARE Abundant

Turn Your Frown
Upside Down.
Flip It.
Be Happy
Smile.

Say "THANK YOU for Your Compliment!"
and
Mean It.

Peace out fellow "Abundance Overflowing" folks...peace out. ( :

Stacy Cheng Suzuki

Life Coach & Reiki Energy Practitioner

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Being Positive Means Not Being a Doormat

Being a Positive Happy Person
=
You are NOT a doormat

Are you a doormat?
You feel that You as a "Nice" person Needs to put up w/
your friend/parent/sibling/co-worker/neighbor/stranger's
Negative Poor Actions or Inactions towards you..
Bullshit
Aka...you believe you need to "suck it up".

If you were under this Dis-illusion,
then Awaken Now from that "funky spell" / misbelief you were under.
Replace that mistaken belief with THIS...
**Being a Positive Happy Person
means Being in Balance
means Not getting sucked into Negative People's
Negative Energy Negative Actions or Inactions
by Respecting Yourself
You stay Positive AND
Don't "touch" that
Walk Away
Just say NO! ***

That's being in Balance.

Got it?
Good.

How do you know when you're falling under that misbelief again?
Here's Some signs...
You Feel Junk
You Feel Upset
You Feel Mad with Yourself bc They're doing it to You AGAIN
They do or do Not do things that rub you the wrong way
Inside your head, you're screaming "Stop this madness!"
Things do NOT flow

And, as long as you Keep feeling This w/ That Person
You Know that you are Not in Balance
Have Not learned This Lesson
Walking Away from Negativity
Of Being In Balance...
Staying Positive

Respect Yourself
Respect Yourself
Respect Yourself

And, You'll find Your World
Respecting You Back.

Peace out my fellow "I Respect Myself" friends...Peace Out ( :

Stacy Cheng Suzuki

Life Coach & Reiki Energy Practitioner

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Change the Way you React [or Not React] to Someone Else's Negative Behavior and Change the Outcome to a More Positive One

If it ain't working, then Change it...
Is there someone who always acts in a specific negative way that makes you feel uncomfortable?

It could be their way of dealing w/ a specific issue or situation.

Like if you both disagree, then this person gets in a huff, you see it on their face, they shut down, they want to change the subject.
Or they go the other way...they get obnoxious, their voice gets really loud, you can see it on their face?
Or you fill in the blank...
But whatever it is, it makes you feel uncomfortable.

NOTE: I am not talking about abusive situations where someone physically or emotionally harms you and you feel threatened in anyway...such as w/ your spouse, partner, boy/girlfriend, parent you live with. In this type of situation, You Need professional help. I highly recommend if you are in This type of Abusive relationship, Please Go and See a Therapist and get professional help from them. Or call your local domestic violence agency [Google it] or call the police or if you feel safe..leave.

What do you do?
Well, you can continue doing what you're doing in response.
But, I bet that's not working bc it's a cycle...a routine pattern...that you both do.
This means you both will be doing this over and over.

OR

Change the way YOU respond to their patten response.
And, then see what happens.
This may take some finagling...you may have to try different things and you determine if it gets the result you want.

Why do I have to "change"?
Well, you're getting yourself OUT of the cycle. So that's a good thing.
And, you know from experience, You'll be holding your breath if you wait for them to change theirs on their own.
But, if you change how you react, then this may start a chain reaction and cause their reaction/non-reaction to change.

So, when they "shut down" and they make it clear they're "upset" w/ you and the topic or situation, You STOP, Think, and React or Don't react to them in a Different way.  And, then see what happens.

If you normally start "shutting down" also bc you are uncomfortable with where this is all going and don't want things to escalate, then instead Say something Positive or in some cases something Direct. And see what happens...

If you normally React a certain way....like yell, or start talking alot or placate them like apologizing when you're Not wrong but just want Peace...aka you react, Then do it differently...talk in a normal tone, inform them how this situation is making you feel, or don't talk at all and stand there and see what happen

You probably already know the "hotspots".
So, before you and that person get into Round 2, think about a different way you will react. Then, when you are in the situation, TRY IT OUT. See what happens. Not getting the result you want? Then, think of Another Way to handle it and do That Next time.
Like I said...it'll take some finagling.

How do you know what makes you feel uncomfortable?
When you think about it aLOT afterwards and wish that person wouldn't react or not react that way OR you feel stifled and wish you said something....you get the picture.

Here's my example...
My mom and I are sometimes [or a lot of times] like oil and water. We have this pattern where we can be talking 1 minute and the next minute we are arguing about something stupid and the conversation sounds like this... "why did you say that to me", "no I didn't", "Yes, you did", "You're too sensitive...I never said that", "I wish I recorded this so you can hear yourself", etc etc etc....talk about a vicious cycle that goes nowhere. This happens also when she starts asking me a lot of questions and if I answer her...this inevitably leads to her nitpicking on something I said...which leads to us "getting into it" over the phone.

Recently, I decided to change the way we communicated bc I knew she wouldn't. When I have a "feeling" that we are going into that mode of "crazy" talk, I Stop myself from reacting to whatever she said that "bugs me", and just tell her "I don't want to talk about this". And miracles beyond miracles....it worked! She immediately says "OK" and we move on. World War 3, 4, & 5 has been averted...all humans on this planet are still alive.

Think of it this way....if something doesn't work, then Do NOT do it. Try something else and see what happens. Life sometimes is a lot like Groundhog Day [with Bill Murray] where you feel like you've been here before...ugh, yeah, 'cause you have.

So, give it a different try and see what happens.
You will be pleasantly surprised when you see the outcome is way better than before.

Peace out my fellow "Happiness Seekers"...peace out. ( :

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You are Not your Bad Decision...Got it? Now, Give yourself a Hug and a Break

You are NOT your "bad" decision...

We all have done it right? Made that...in hindsight..."bad choice".
And then we dwell upon it.
Replay like a broken record the incident leading up to our "bad choice' over and over and over again.
Sound familiar?
You are Human.
You are Not alone.
Every single Person on this planet has made "bad choices".

What can you do to stop yourself from beating yourself up?
Give yourself a break. And, a Big Hug.
You're probably kinder to other folks than you are to yourself, right?
You've forgiven even strangers for worse stuff than you are whipping yourself for, right?
Remember....You are a vulnerable caring person also...so give yourself a Break.
Now.

There are No bad or good decisions.
There are only choices which take you one way or the other.
It's part of your Lesson here on earth in this Lifetime.
You goofed up? Said the wrong thing? Did the wrong thing? or didn't say or didn't do the right thing?
This is your Lesson.
Do Not replay it in your head.
From this lesson, the Next time, you'll choose the other path.

And the choice you made that you felt was a "bad one", what do I do, you ask?
Learn from it. That's all. Then let it go...and Move on.
One foot in front of the other.
One day at a time.
That's what being Human is all about.
Not getting it "right", Not getting it "wrong".
Living and learning and moving forward towards the Light.

Yes, you can do it grasshopper.
Like you, I'm learning this lesson All the time.
I'm learning to get rid of that record player and put on some walking shoes because I've got a lot of miles to go.
Let's go there together.

Peace out my fellow "Just Wanna Be Happy" friends...Peace out. ( :

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Tulips and Roses...Happy Friday!

Just a little something something that I put together...Roses and Tulips.  

Happy Friday! 

Do you LoVe LoVe it?

Happy Mother's Day!

Happy Mother's Day to all!